Label Me Research Paper

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Make requests reasonable and sparse. One who feels imposed upon or “bossed” will retaliate. Do not tell someone he is right or wrong- there is more than one point of view. “You may be quite right. We will have to think about it and see what else happens.” The quickest way to provoke someone into lying is to ask a question when you already know the answer. Do not ask children to repeat muttered obscenities. This is the time for a stern look. Label me, negate me. Labeling is disabling. School assignments are the responsibility of the child, not the parent. Whenever possible, believe that an act was not in deliberate defiance. Allow the person to save face. Downgrade “Bad” Habits. The more fuss we make over bad habits, the worse they get. Respect your own limits. We can be a little nicer than we feel, but not much. It is important to accept the reality of our feelings at the moment. Be authentic. Talk less. Refrain from dwelling and overstating the obvious. Nagging does not motivate. Whisper. Get down to their level and touch them gently. Use the “one-word rule.” One-word statements work best when the word is a noun; verbs sound like orders. “Shoes!” Certain words used at the beginning of a sentence- “You,” “If,” and “Why” are like red flags waved in front of a bull. They invite…show more content…
Use active listening. Talk about your feelings; “I feel...” Invite child to work on finding a mutually acceptable solution. Children do have intelligent solutions to offer. All ideas welcome. Decide which you like, which you do not, and which you want to put into action. Follow through. Do not permit child to blame you or accuse at any point. If a plan works for a while, then does not; “I am disappointed. Shall we give the old plan another chance? Shall we talk about what is getting in the way? Or shall we work out another solution?” By inviting solutions rather than delivering an impulsive punishment, we can often gain insight into

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