Frustration, Anxiety And Tension

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Frustration, Anxiety & Tension. F.A.T. By: Priscilla Rivera Grand Canyon University: SPD500 January 22, 2018 F.A.T. City: A Look Back, a Look Ahead- A Conversation about Special Education As Discussed by Richard D. Lavoie Frustration, Anxiety & Tension F.A.T. In the video F.A.T. City: A Look Back, a Look Ahead— A Conversation about Special Education, Richard D. Lavoie, addresses the frustrations, anxieties, and tensions that children with learning disabilities experience. Lavoie’s symposium is overflowing with compelling understandings, along with realistic methodologies on coaching and schooling, building self-esteem, creating individualized education plans (IEPs), and imparting liability, home schooling, parental accountability and much…show more content…
Cambridge English Dictionary defines fairness as “the quality of treating people equally or in a way that is right or reasonable.” Merriam-Webster defines equal as “the quality or state of being equal; the quality or state of having the same rights, social status, etc.” Equity is defined as “fairness or justice in the way people are treated.” If we were to ask a child what fairness means, most would say that “fairness is everyone getting the same.” Richard D. Lavoie, states that fairness is everyone getting what they need, not the same thing because each person is different and will have different needs (Lavoie.…show more content…
Parents need to remember that. Lavoie, argues that too many parents are worried about balancing the scale of fairness, that they forget everything else. The needs of children with learning disabilities will always require more. Whether it be more attention, financial or academic support, their needs will always be greater than the needs of those who do not have a learning disability. Parents of children with learning disabilities will invest in more time, energy and resources to meet the needs of their special child; and must do so without trying to “make it up” to their other children by overcompensating. When asked by parents “how do I make it up to my other kids?” Lavoie advises parents not to even try. He states that the more they try, the deeper that “fairness” hole becomes. He recommends for parents to look in the eyes of their other kids and say, “Honey, if it was you, I’d be doing the same thing. If it was you, I’d be doing the same thing” (Lavoie. 2005). Children are not given enough credit as to what they can and cannot understand. Lavoie goes on to describe a scenario in which a parent has three kids and one is upstairs in bed with a stomach virus, when you take dinner up to him you don’t find the other two in their beds waiting for dinner in bed. Kids understand at any given point in time that one kid’s needs are greater than another’s” (Lavoie.

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