Where Are You Going Where Have You Been Analysis

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In Joyce Carol Oates’ short story, “Where Are You Going? Where Have You Been,” Connie is caught in the crossfire of the war between fantasy and reality in her teenage mind. This story clearly demonstrates that what one may see, is not what one always gets. Sometimes what an individual sees in his or her eyes, is not exactly what it appears to be in reality. People can delude themselves into creating their own “reality”, when it is merely a fantasy. In Connie’s case, she faces her struggle with fantasy versus reality through pop culture’s influence on her, her façade as a sexually mature woman, and her terrifying nightmare of Arnold Friend. It is through this story that Oates presents to the readers the dangers of denying reality and accepting…show more content…
It is only an act which enables her to simply live her fantasy in the real world. This is true because “Everything about her had two sides to it, one for home and one for anywhere that was not home” (Oates 652). This reveals that Connie is one person when she is at home with her parents and her older sister June, however, a completely different person when she is not at home. It shows the readers the inner conflict within Connie. Connie Throughout the whole entire story, Connie is real when she is at home, but she is fake when she is out and about with friends. The other side of her outside of home is what ultimately led to her submission to Arnold Friend. Connie tries to prove that she is mature by dressing suggestively such as, “she wore a pullover jersey blouse that looked one way when she was at home and another way when she was away from home” (651-652). Another example of her keeping up with her façade is her being around boys like Eddie, “down an alley” (652). Despite all of this, she is not as mature as she thinks she is. When she is at home, Connie knows that she is not able to get into her role as a mature woman, however, when she is not at home, she knows that she could play the part. This act that she plays is proven to be false when Arnold Friend comes into play- this is when she is faced with reality. She tries so desperately to be mature but Arnold…show more content…
The fact that her encounter with Arnold Friend may be seen as a nightmare, is yet another example of the major difference between reality and fantasy in the story. The first example of this is when “Connie sat with her eyes closed in the sun . . . and when she opened her eyes she hardly knew where she was. . .She shook her head as if to get awake” (653-654). This implies that she fell asleep and woke up into her dreadful nightmare. Arnold Friend’s full and complete knowledge of Connie only supports this notion. He claims to her, after telling her her name, “‘. . .I know your name and all about you, lots of things. . .I know your parents and sister are gone somehweres and I know where. . . and your best friend’s name is Betty. Right?” (656). There is no logical explanation for his detailed knowledge about her other than this encounter is all in her mind. Also, Connie does not remember where she is, just like in a dream, “The kitchen looked like a place she had never seen before, some room she had run inside but which wasn’t good enough wasn’t going to help her” (659), the narrator provides more evidence to believe that this encounter is a dream. There should not be any reason why Connie cannot remember what her kitchen looks like. Near the end of the story, Connie “watched herself push the door slowly open as if she were safe back somewhere in the other doorway, watching this body and this head
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