non-directive play therapy. In the book Axline (1990) speaks of her hope to help Dibs to distinguish between his feelings and his actions, and also her desire for him to assume responsibility for himself and gain his psychological independence. In order to achieve this, it was necessary for Axline as the therapist to build a relationship with Dibs that was congruent. ‘Dibs began to cry. ‘Dibs no go home’, he sobbed. ‘Dibs stay’. ‘I know you really would like to stay’, I said. ‘But your time for today